You are not “falling away”. You are gaining awareness and overcoming.
Black people caught by surprise responding to the actions of white people,
IT’s 1870 I can’t believe white people are practising racism “I’m in utter shock”
IT’s 1900 I can’t believe white people are practising racism “I’m so surprised”
IT’s 1920 I can’t believe white people are practising racism “I’m so taken back”
IT’s 1945 I can’t believe white people are practising racism “I can’t believe this, we’re in the middle of war war 2”
IT’s 1968 I can’t believe white people are practising racism “I thought things was different we went to the moon”
IT’s 1985 I can’t believe white people are practising racism “it blows my mind”
IT’s 2000 I can’t believe white people are practising racism “why would white people do such a thing”
IT’s 2014 I can’t believe white people are practising racism “they kill one more of our black children”
If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children don’t have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.
The best advice I’ve ever received is, ‘No one else knows what they’re doing either.
one of the worst things about becoming educated on social issues is when people are like ‘you used to have a sense of humor’
no i used to have internalized prejudices which i’ve worked really hard to overcome and i realize now that your jokes are shittyAlways reblog this because becoming more socially aware makes you dislike a lot of people
Adrian Peterson and what our fathers did to us: we have not turned out fine
Jeb Lund: The toxic effect of discipline – abuse, self-delusion or both – is that you almost have to move on. But we can never move on. The way of the belt lasts lifetimes
From a smartassed standpoint, it’s easy to note that many of the people who claim to have turned out fine look or sound pretty clearly the opposite of fine. That such people unintentionally embody the antithesis of “fine” – that they remain unaware of embodying the emotions therein – makes their not-fineness double the distance between them and whatever passes for fine. And while that’s often true, it’s also a kind of cheap joke.
The pernicious, toxic and inescapable lifelong effect of being disciplined physically – either to the point of abuse, or to the point that the distinction between acceptable and unacceptable blurs in your mind – is that you almost have to say you turned out fine, just to redeem the fact of being who you are. That you “turned out fine” is the only way to make sense of having once felt total terror or uncontrollable shaking rage at the sight of one (or both) of the two people expected to care most for you in the world. The thought that you might have ended up relatively OK or perhaps even better without all that fear is almost unbearable: the suffering only doubles if you admit that it truly had no purpose.